A Candid Postpartum guide
Welcome, new mama, to the exciting world of postpartum. It’s a wild ride, filled with the deepest love, steep learning curves, sleepless nights, and incredible transformation—all rolled into the first six weeks after childbirth.
During this time, your body will be recovering from childbirth, navigating a new hormonal landscape, and adjusting to your new role. All while you get to grips with diaper changes, midnight feedings, and decoding the secret language of your baby’s cries.
In this guide, we’ll candidly explore all aspects of postpartum life—from that first uncomfortable pee after childbirth, to the tender moments of breastfeeding, and the critical importance of looking after your mental health.
This isn’t about painting an unrealistically rosy picture. We’re about keeping it real, discussing the beauty and the tough stuff alike, because the postpartum journey is both.
Remember, there’s a whole community of moms who have been right where you are now. You’re not alone in this—you’ve got this, mama! So, let’s dive in together, embracing every question and concern along the way.
Physical Changes & Recovery
Becoming a mom means getting a front-row seat to the most mind-boggling magic trick—your body creating, carrying, and giving birth to a whole new life. After such a grand spectacle, it’s no surprise that your body needs some time to recover. Let’s dive into some of the changes you might experience postpartum, and how you can help your body heal.
Childbirth Recovery: That First Pee and Poop
Let’s just get straight to it—your first pee or poop after childbirth can be…an experience.
You might feel a stinging sensation when you pee, especially if you had a vaginal birth and ended up with tears or an episiotomy.
Tip: Try using a perineal irrigation bottle (or peri bottle) with warm water while peeing to help alleviate the discomfort. Like, literally spray yourself as your peeing. Sounds weird, but you’ll be thanking me later, I promise.
Frida Mom makes an upside down peri bottle that is PERFECT! I highly recommend you getting one.
As for that first poop, it might feel as scary as childbirth itself. Stool softeners, plenty of water, and a high-fiber diet can be your best friends here. And all of those deep moans you learned to do during labor? They’ll be helpful here too.
Managing Vaginal Pain
Vaginal pain is pretty common after a vaginal birth. You might feel sore, bruised, or swollen—and that’s totally normal.
1. To soothe the pain, ice packs are a lifesaver. Just wrap them in a clean cloth and apply for 10-20 minutes at a time.
Again, Frida Mom has some great ice packs that you can put right into that sexy diaper you’re wearing.
**Side note: this may be an unpopular opinion, but I personally LOVED those diapers. Say what you will, but those things were comfy.
2. Sitz baths (a warm, shallow bath that cleanses the perineum) can also provide some much-needed relief.
3. Over-the-counter pain relievers can be helpful too, but make sure to check with your healthcare provider first.
4. Lastly, rest. Your body has performed a miracle, it deserves a break!
Navigating Hormonal Changes
Postpartum is a hormonal roller coaster. After childbirth, your estrogen and progesterone levels drop dramatically. Hello, mood swings and fatigue!
Remember to cut yourself some slack. Your body is readjusting, and it’s perfectly okay to feel a little out of sorts.
If these feelings become too intense or persist, don’t hesitate to reach out to a healthcare professional. They’re there to help.
Breast Changes and Navigating Breastfeeding
As your body prepares to nourish your little one, you may notice changes in your breasts. They might become larger, tender, and yes, they may leak.
Using a supportive bra can help with discomfort, and breast pads can catch any leaks.
If you’re breastfeeding and your breasts feel hard, warm, and painful, you might have a blocked duct or mastitis—a breast infection.
Warm compresses, gentle massage, and continuing to breastfeed or pump can help. If you’re unsure or symptoms persist, contact your healthcare provider or a lactation consultant. They’re like the superheroes of the breastfeeding world.
Emotional Changes & Mental Health
Just as your body goes through significant changes after childbirth, so does your mind. It’s common to feel like a whirlwind of emotions—elation, exhaustion, confusion, and sometimes even sadness.
No two moms’ experiences are the same, but remember, it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Let’s take a closer look at some emotional shifts that can happen during this time.
Baby Blues vs. Postpartum Depression
If you find yourself in tears just as often as your newborn, know that you’re not alone. Many new moms experience the “baby blues”—a term used for the mild feelings of sadness, anxiety, mood swings, and trouble sleeping that can set in a few days after childbirth. This usually subsides within a couple of weeks as your hormones settle and you adjust to your new routine.
In my experience, I felt unattached to my baby, which left me feeling extremely guilty. I’m his mama, shouldn’t I feel that magical bond everyone talks about? That’s the power of hormones. It took me a while, but I finally talked to my midwife about it and she was able to give me the encouragement and affirmation I needed.
But what if it doesn’t go away, or if the feelings get stronger? This could be a sign of postpartum depression (PPD). Symptoms can include extreme sadness or anxiety, trouble bonding with your baby, or even thoughts of harming yourself or the baby.
This isn’t just a case of the “blues,” it’s a serious condition that needs medical attention. If you think you might have PPD, reach out to a healthcare professional right away. There’s no shame in seeking help—in fact, it’s one of the bravest things you can do.
Understanding Postpartum Anxiety
Did you know that anxiety disorders are just as common as depression in new moms? Postpartum anxiety can involve excessive worry about the baby, fear of harm coming to the baby, or panic attacks. Physical symptoms can include a racing heart, dizziness, or trouble sleeping.
While it’s normal to worry about your little one, if the anxiety feels all-consuming and gets in the way of your daily life, it’s time to seek professional help.
Remember, mama, there’s a whole tribe of healthcare professionals who specialize in postpartum mental health. If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out. It doesn’t make you weak—it makes you a strong mama who’s doing everything she can to take care of herself and her baby. And that’s something to be proud of.
Lifestyle Changes & Adjustments
Stepping into motherhood is like stepping into a whole new world. It’s beautiful, rewarding, and at times, overwhelming. The landscape of your daily life changes as you adjust to new routines, responsibilities, and let’s not forget, sleep patterns (or the lack thereof).
So, let’s chat about some of these adjustments and how you can navigate them like the rockstar mom you are.
The Realities of Sleep Deprivation
Baby snuggles are amazing. Midnight, 2 AM, 4 AM…not so much. Sleep deprivation is almost like a rite of passage for new parents. You might feel like a zombie navigating through a foggy world—and that’s normal.
Try catching sleep when the baby sleeps, and don’t hesitate to ask your spouse, family, or friends to watch the baby while you sneak in a nap.
Yes, there will be chores to do, but rest is critical—for both your physical recovery and mental health. Remember, a rested mama is a better-equipped mama.
PLUS, rest helps with your milk production!
Navigating Breastfeeding Challenges
Breastfeeding is a natural process, but it doesn’t always come naturally. Latching issues, sore nipples, and milk supply worries can make it a challenging journey.
The good news? There’s help available.
Lactation consultants can offer advice and guidance. And sometimes, the best solution is patience and time, as both you and your baby learn and adjust. No matter what, remember that fed is best, whether that’s breastmilk or formula.
Embracing New Responsibilities
As a new mom, you have a brand-new, around-the-clock job—taking care of a tiny human. It’s beautiful, exhausting, and can sometimes feel like too much. And guess what?
It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to need help.
You don’t have to do it all on your own. Reach out to your partner, family, friends, or a postpartum doula for support. And if you’re feeling consistently unable to cope, speak to a healthcare professional.
Self-Care Tips for Postpartum Moms
Okay, mama, now that we’ve covered the changes and adjustments you might experience during the postpartum period, let’s talk about you.
It’s essential to remember that taking care of your baby also involves taking care of yourself. So, here are a few self-care tips to help you navigate this journey.
Rest: Catch Those Zs When You Can
There’s a saying in the parenting world: “Sleep when the baby sleeps.” And it’s a golden nugget of advice.
Your sleep cycle might look more like a patchwork quilt for a while, but catching sleep when you can is key for your recovery and mental health.
Remember, laundry can wait; your rest cannot.
Nutrition: Fueling Your Recovery
Food is fuel, and your body needs high-quality fuel for recovery, energy, and if you’re breastfeeding, for milk production.
Try to eat balanced meals filled with protein, fruits, veggies, and whole grains. And yes, it’s perfectly okay to indulge in a treat now and then—you’ve earned it!
Hydration: Your New Best Friend
If there’s one thing that’s just as important as good nutrition, it’s hydration—especially if you’re breastfeeding. Keeping your body hydrated helps maintain your milk supply and supports overall recovery.
So keep that water bottle handy, and sip throughout the day. If you’re tired of plain water, try infusing it with fruits or having herbal teas.
If you tend to forget to drink water, then make it a rule that when baby drinks, you drink.
Exercise: Move at Your Own Pace
Before you worry, no one’s expecting you to jump back into your pre-pregnancy workout routine (unless you’re ready, that is!). Gentle exercises, like walking or postpartum stretching, can do wonders for your body and mind.
They can help boost your mood, aid in recovery, and increase your energy levels. Remember to get your healthcare provider’s go-ahead before starting any exercise regimen.
Emotional Well-being Tips
While the physical changes postpartum are often evident and discussed, emotional changes can be more subtle, yet equally impactful. Your emotional well-being is critical, not just for you, but for your baby too.
So, let’s share some ways to nurture your heart and mind during this roller coaster ride of early motherhood.
Sharing Your Feelings
Emotions running high? Feeling overwhelmed? Share it.
Whether it’s with your partner, a trusted friend, your mom, or a healthcare professional—don’t bottle up your feelings. It’s okay to admit if things are tough, and it’s okay to ask for help.
Remember, there’s strength in vulnerability, and your feelings, whatever they are, are valid.
The Magic of Support Groups
Believe it or not, you’re not alone in this. There are thousands of moms out there going through similar experiences. Joining a support group—either online or in person—can provide a comforting sense of community.
Hearing other moms’ stories, sharing your own, and gleaning wisdom from seasoned mamas can be incredibly beneficial.
Remember, it takes a village to raise a child, and that village is also there to support you.
Embracing Mindfulness and Leaning into Faith
Practicing mindfulness can be a great way to manage anxiety and boost your mood. Simple techniques like deep breathing, or spending a few quiet moments focusing on your senses, can help ground you when things feel overwhelming.
Postpartum, and motherhood in general, really pushed me to lean into Jesus. If you’re a believer, remember the powerful role Jesus can play in your life. He is called “The Comforter” for a reason.
During moments of struggle, exhaustion, or anxiety, running to Jesus can provide peace and perspective.
Seeking Help: You’re Not Alone
Finally, and importantly, let’s talk about seeking help.
As a new mom, it’s easy to feel like you should be able to handle it all. After all, motherhood is natural, right? But sometimes, things can get too heavy to carry on your own.
So, here’s the thing, mama: it’s more than okay to reach out for professional help.
Recognizing When It’s Time to Reach Out
Navigating the emotional ups and downs postpartum is part of the journey, but if feelings of sadness, anxiety, or overwhelm persist and start interfering with your ability to care for yourself or your baby, it’s time to seek professional help.
Don’t shrug it off or think it’s just a phase. Postpartum depression and anxiety are real, and they are treatable.
Remember, reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength. It shows that you’re prioritizing your mental health and doing what’s best for you and your baby.
Help Comes in Many Forms
Professional help can come in many forms, including your obstetrician, a mental health professional, a postpartum doula, or a trusted lactation consultant.
Don’t be afraid to voice your concerns and ask for help. These professionals are here to support you and guide you towards the resources you need.
Your Health Matters
Remember, mama, your health—both physical and emotional—matters. It’s just as important as your little one’s.
If you’re struggling, you’re not failing. You’re human, and you’re facing one of life’s most significant challenges.
You’re a mother, a warrior, and you are stronger than you think. If you need help, reach out. There’s a whole network of hands ready to hold you up.
You’re not alone in this journey, and you’re doing an incredible job.
Wrapping Up
There’s no handbook for motherhood and no two postpartum experiences are alike.
As you navigate through this precious and demanding time, remember to be kind to yourself. Lean on your loved ones, seek help when needed, and cherish the special moments with your little one.
This journey is challenging, but oh, so rewarding. You’re stronger than you realize, and you’re doing an amazing job, mama. You’ve got this!
